http://www.firstthings.com/article/2015/04/dismantling-the-cross

natural affections not ordered to eternal realities are doomed

we want life ordered to what is greater.
we want a larger context for private projects and relationships. 
we wants peace, the peace that the world cannot give, and expect to find it in the Church that has always prioritized the contemplative over the active life.

In the short run, it does no harm and possibly much good to try to strengthen monogamous, lifelong marriage. But to think that this is the answer to the Church’s problems is to think as man thinks rather than as God thinks. In the long run, if the vertical to which the horizontal relationship of marriage is ordered comes down, not only marriage but the Gospel itself will fall. When the Church stresses relationships between creatures more than the relationship of the individual to God—when she treats marriage as an end rather than as a seedbed for vocations—the Gospel message itself is compromised.

 by downplaying earthly marriage and ordering it to what was greater and eternal that the Church ensured marriage’s health, tamping down ­unrealistic expectations and not placing on marriage a weight greater than it was intended to bear.

In our relational lives there is only one absolute good, and that is our relationship to God, a good denied to no one, lay or religious, who seeks it, prioritizes it, sacrifices for it, holds fast to it. Relative goods, on the other hand—including health and success, marriage and children—man cannot demand. God dispenses relative goods as he sees fit, in order to help man find his way to the final good of eternal life with him.

The celibate, by his example, proposes a truth exactly opposite: that every other love, every lesser love, is a sublimated form of the love of God.

the love of God, how, I do not know, burns, and the more it burns the more it finds to burn